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I am a single mother, my oldest child is 17 and he has a 19 year old friend. I have known this man for quite some time and over that time Dating your friends son have developed feelings for each other. I've been single for 8 years and my last relationship was very bad. At first we decided that we had to deny our feelings because we felt it would hurt my son. We were good friends anyway and we have spent a lot of platonic time together.

Recently we started seeing each other in secret and it has been a really wonderful time, marred by my feelings of Dating your friends son over his friendship with my son. We would like Dating your friends son be open about Dating your friends son relationship but I am so scared it will cause a bad rift in my relationship with my son. We are very close but I don't think Dating your friends son or my other children see me as anything other than a Dating your friends son and it would be difficult for them to accept me being with anyone let alone someone who is so young.

I am falling in love with this guy and I know he feels the same way. I guess I'm just looking for any advice from others who have been here. Is it wrong for me to love someone who is friends with my son? Is it wrong of us to be together? If it is a choice between my son or my lover it would always be my child, but will he hate me or accept us as a happy couple? I don't want to give up my lover only to find later that my son would have been fine with it.

Please be honest but somewhat gentle as I am feeling a little fragile right now. I think it is wrong. My father started dating my friend who was a couple years older than me. It was weird to say the least! They actually made it work for Dating your friends son 7 years, got married and had a child together but in the end it didn't work and caused huge problems between my father and I, my friend and I, my Dating your friends son and everyone in the family etc.

There are plenty of fish Dating your friends son the sea If you really think you are in love with this "man" than I would speak to your son about it before you Dating your friends son any further. You really should have discussed it with him first because now it may make it worse that Dating your friends son have been seeing him behind his back.

You also have to remember this guy is only 19 he's got a lot of learning and growing up to do before he can settle down especially with someone who is a lot older, mature then him and someone who has children. Just a Dating your friends son - what happens if this boy decides he wants children sometime in the future? Can you give Dating your friends son to him? Honestly, I think it's wrong too.

This boy is not a fully grown man. He hasn't even matured completely yet. Honestly, I think Dating your friends son would be restricting his future by being with him.

I know my words are harsh but if my honest opinion isn't what you would like to hear, then I don't believe this was the right place to post your question. Id stop seeing him. If this was a man seeing his daughters best friend you would be appalled! It's not worth the rift in your family and there are plenty of other men out there. Would you like it if the situation was reversed? I personally think its wrong and Dating your friends son in the future that I Dating your friends son find someone my own age I look at my sons friends now and don't think in 12 years time I would ever want to sleep with one of them they are like my own kids.

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If you must try with this teenager talk to your son first see how he would feel about the Dating your friends son. And remember it doesn't matter how mature they might seem he is still just a kid with a lot of growing up to do and life lessons to learn. End the relationship immediately, I guarantee it will ruin your relationship with your son, things like this tear families apart and Dating your friends son is no forgiving, you are his mother and the person he looks up to and trusts don't go dating Dating your friends son friend it is wrong on so many levels there are plenty more men out there good luck.

I'm sorry but 19 is not a man. He's barely out of school and has little experience of the world or life. It is completely up to you as to whether you risk your relationship with your son for the remote chance of a relationship with a kid that I highly doubt will last long than a few years at the absolute maximum. Think of your son, think of your other children - this will only end badly Dating your friends son all involved. To be gentle, I personally would choose my son first which you stated.

If you need to hide this, and that goes for any relationship you have, then you know it not the right thing to do regardless of his age. You didn't say how old you are, but if this relationship was ok can you cope knowing that you will not fit in with his friends? Your son having a social life away from you is very important to his growing up and making his way through life.

In regards to you, you will be unable to give him children when he wants them for Dating your friends son in about Dating your friends son years time will you want him to settle down or are you ok with him partying and having younger girls trying to pick him up?

These relationships can work, but it is very awkward for all involved. Really Dating your friends son you've chosen to hide Dating your friends son instead of being open it its heading down a dark and destructive path. If you can get some good, honest and trustworthy counsel and have a good honest talk with your Dating your friends son, alone it'd be good.

Perhaps write out a pros and cons and really get deep Dating your friends son what this relationship means to you. How is Dating your friends son fulfilling you? How is it bringing peace into your life? How is it affecting your family and Dating your friends son between each other? What can you offer him and what can Dating your friends son offer you? Have a talk with the fellow involved and really he deep to see what it will involve.

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Family and relationship space? I hope you find a good resolution that works for you and your family.

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This was my question and Dating your friends son just wanted to say thank you for your honesty and advice. I decided to Dating your friends son the relationship but it is very painful. My children mean the world to me.

I will Dating your friends son with the loss and eventually move on. I feel terrible for him also as it Dating your friends son hurt him badly but we will remain friends. I am 33 by the way, 14yr age gap, still ok in my eyes but it's the friendship with my son that made it wrong.

And, as was asked, I do Dating your friends son want any more children and Dating your friends son he says he is fine with that I think Dating your friends son will someday. So thanks again my fellow Imperfect Mums, it's nice to have people to ask for advice at times like this. By using this site you agree to our terms.

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