There is no right or wrong way to get married. He and his girlfriend were on a break at the time, and my boyfriend was living in another country. So I walked up to him and introduced myself. We talked for a couple minutes. I had just graduated from college. I was single and going on way too many Tinder dates. I was about to be homeless, jobless and had no idea what my next move was. Everything in my life was about to change, and I was drinking a lot. One night my friends I decided to go see some live music at a local bar.
Guess who was there? Do you remember me? My name is Elena. Do you want to go on a date with me? Fuck yes, I wanted to go on a date with him. I cannot tell you how good it to be asked out in person.
Not over a hook-up app or social media. So we exchanged numbers. A couple of weeks later we went on our date. It was Getting engaged after 2 years of hookup June 21st. He brought me a bouquet of sunflowers and took me to one of the best restaurants in town. We were at the restaurant almost 4 hours.
After dinner we decided to drive up to Lake Tahoe and go for a swim under the moon. It was close to midnight. After our dip in our underwear, we sat on the shore and saw several shooting stars in a matter of minutes while drying off. That shit was magical. We drove back to Reno, went to another bar that was close to my house and had a couple more drinks. Around 3AM he walked me home and kissed me goodnight. I really liked him.
And I knew he really liked me. After I was finished moving I called him and he was grabbing a beer with a friend so I met up with him. We got dinner, walked around downtown, then he showed me his place. I went home super late that night because I had nanny early the next day.
Then we hung out the next day, and the next day. We knew so many of the same people, but for some reason, it surprised them seeing us together. That night he told me he loved me and that he was going to marry me. Going to that wedding with him, made it very clear to me that I was in love with him. And that I wanted to marry him too. He made me laugh. Each guy I have dated has been very different from the last.
There was one thing that really struck me about him… It was how much the people around him adored him. Since we had so many mutual friends, it was the people around me who adored him. I was constantly being how great of a guy he was and how much he was admired by people Getting engaged after 2 years of hookup I knew and trusted.
Before he passed away he was married 5 times, to Getting engaged after 2 years of hookup different women. Divorced her when I was 6 then remarried her shortly after. They divorced again when I was Whatever the hell I wanted, really. Planning gives me so much anxiety. Since we knew that we wanted to get married, the next question was… When? I knew that he was the one. He knew that I was the one. We were unapologetic in our infatuation.
One night we were out with some friends. So we tried to elope that night, but it was 2 in the morning and the wedding chapel was closed. So you start to fight to keep things interesting.
You go on breaks, then you make up. You say hurtful shit, then apologize. You cheat or get cheated on. You decide to stay together because you are inconvenienced by the thought of starting over with someone new. Some people decide to get married after having been through all of these things while dating. They hope that getting married will somehow salvage their broken relationship. Why not get married when we are in the honeymoon phase of our relationship?
Why not make the honeymoon phase the foundation for our marriage? For us there was no convincing. We were simply convinced. His parents are still married. He grew up in a stable, modest home, and he has a wonderful family. He had consistency growing up.
My childhood was a bit rockier. My needs were always met financially, but emotionally, my life was exhausting. It was pretty much a clusterfuck. I felt safe with him knowing that he grew up in the Getting engaged after 2 years of hookup I wished I had. It also helped that our values were perfectly aligned. I trusted him with my heart. We texted our closest friends on morning of Sunday, July 13th, We told them to meet us at the Getting engaged after 2 years of hookup of the Bells at 7PM.
It was beautiful, simple, and
Getting engaged after 2 years of hookup. I moved in with him right after we
Getting engaged after 2 years of hookup hitched, and guess what? We still like each other! We have been married almost two years now. We fought so little that it almost felt unhealthy.
Now we bicker, cry, get mad and yell. But we always work through it and quickly. The coolest thing about our marriage is that it still feels like we are in the honeymoon phase.
I think that is because of the Getting engaged after 2 years of hookup that we have set for our relationship early on. For us, divorce is simply not an option. I want to give my children what I never had growing up…emotional stability, consistency and parents who love and respect one another. I hope that it was perfect and beautiful in every way. But unfortunately, Society makes us believe that this is the right way.
This is the only way to get married if you want your union to be taken seriously by others. And at times Society has frowned upon us for having done it so differently. We knew that when we got married [in the way we did,
Getting engaged after 2 years of hookup quickly as we did] that people would be judgmental, make bets on how long we would last, and think we were absolutely crazy.
We have Getting engaged after 2 years of hookup other, we have a kick-ass marriage, we have two painfully adorable cats, Getting engaged after 2 years of hookup beautiful home that we have made together. And we struggle everyday. But we love each other immeasurably.
I will also mention that this story would be completely different if I married a guy I kinda sorta knew…but he turned out to kinda sorta be a psychopath.
My husband is the shit. He is a wonderful man. And I am so grateful every day for him. I suppose I just want you to know that if you love someone and want Getting engaged after 2 years of hookup spend the rest of your life Getting engaged after 2 years of hookup them…you need to tell them.